Gobble gobble! Make it through Thanksgiving!

Over the river and through the woods to Grandmother’s house we go, right? Lots of us spend at least a little time in the car and on the roads on or around Thanksgiving, shuttling from one relative’s house to another.  However, the last thing I want to deal with is holiday traffic, if it can be at all avoided (lol).  Thanksgiving is one of the rare holidays that succeed in bringing friends and family from all over the map together. For the first time ever I decided to host Thanksgiving dinner at my home with my family, friends, and friends who are like family. I want to take my time conversing with them all, sharing stories, taking pictures, and creating memories that will last until it’s time for the next Thanksgiving. When all is said and done, I will be sure to finish off with a nice slice of pie, I deserve it.

This Thanksgiving we will eat wonderful foods, drink refreshing liquids and enjoy special desserts prepared with love by Kristy, Chris, Jessica, Wayne and maybe or our military friends who couldn’t travel all the way home to be with the family.  As in years past, there will be three NFL games televised:  Packers at Lions, Raiders at Cowboys & Steelers at Ravens!  Oh YES, we will be watching football on Thanksgiving….  football on turkey-day has become as much a staple in many homes as turkey and pumpkin pie.

I hope you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving filled with good food, family, friends, football, fun…and some shopping!
I am SOOOO thankful for each of you and for reading my blog. I never could have imagined the joy from wonderful experiences and friends I have made because of my blog.
SO THANK YOU!!!
HAPPY THANKSGIVING!
April
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Oh, Sir William

What bewilders me, and maybe others, is differences between men and women. It seems to me, that most often men’s driving force (conscious or unconcious) is sex but a woman’s driving force is emotional exchange. Women want to receive things like recognition, validation, feeling needed and wanted and of course, to be loved. When do a man’s emotions come into play beyond sexual desire? It has taken me 33 years to recognize that men often do express affection through sex. Further, the closeness they feel after sex presents a great opportunity for conversation that contains the “emotional exchange” so satisfying to women (and to men, too). But women sometimes demand too much emotional talk from men (I’m guilty of this). Women need to recognize that men often express affection best through actions (changing a light bulb, fixing the car) rather than words!   Women and men are entirely different species and what each wants is at odds with the needs and desires of the other sex.

FIRST THE COMPLAINTS
There’s nothing more frustrating and painful than to feel a need to communicate with someone I care about and yet not feel welcome to approach him. That is exactly how I felt this morning when i was trying to “text” my feelings.  And, we all know my contentment towards texting (see previous blog)!!!  I wish he understood how important I feel our conversations are for maintaining and deepening an emotional connection.  He seems to think that most conversation has no function unless it’s conveying concise information toward a specific goal (that’s definitely the US Marine in him).  He doesn’t seem to understand the part about how paying attention, even to things like chatting about each other’s days, his likes, his story deepens the bonding for me.  Sheesh, men need to realize if they dont communicate exactly what’s going on, women will jump to conclusions. It shouldn’t be our fault when the man gets angry about this… Men will never truly understand how much lack of communication hurts us women.  I wish I understood what’s going on in his head when he withdraws. It’s so hard to see he’s in pain, to know he’s in pain, and to also know he’d damn near rather eat glass than admit it.

NOW THE GOOD STUFF
Don’t let all those complaints and frustrations mislead you. I like this man, I mean I really really really like him….and I have not kept it a secret by far – I talk about him to my daughters, my family, friends and co-workers.  
I like the serene and effortlessly sexy way he carries himself when he feels like he is in control i.e. jump starting my car at 4am, arranging his fantasy football league, killing a creepy bug, opening a jar for me, or ordering dinner for us. When he’s in this relaxed state of control, all I can do is melt and admire. Its funny to because he doesn’t understand how very much I need him. It is so in vogue nowadays to act like I am so independent, and have no need of man in my life. But it simply isn’t true. I am lonely without you. I’d also like you to know I’m not presenting a trap when I inquire how you’re feeling, I don’t want to judge or mock, I WANT TO HELP. I want to understand you, and I want you to understand me. Your boyishness…Your sense of humor and play that you have is by far what I like most …and a nice butt doesn’t hurt!

Miss the way your hugs feel, so strong and protective….

XOXO April

A Beautiful Mess

Those disastrous mornings where you sleep through the alarm, the kids are arguing within minutes of opening their eyes, you don’t have enough bread left for lunches and you miss your mouth entirely and pour coffee all over your new top moments before you need to be out the door…..

Yep those!

I’ve had a few of those mornings these past few weeks, more than I can count actually.

But I have finally come to the realization that sometimes, the only thing to do is shrug your shoulders, laugh at yourself and say “F**K It!

When you are standing in a looooong queue at Dick’s along with dozens of other families trying to take advantage only one day only discount on equipment for their kids in grade school and you suddenly realize that you have precisely 7 minutes to get one of your other children onto the basketball court a whole block away AND you’ve left your phone on the counter of another store…. yep you guessed it, you’ve just got to say “F**k It!”

When life gets so frickin crazy and you feel that everyone needs or wants something from you and your To Do List is longer than the hairs on your legs that haven’t been waxed since no idea… then you really REALLY need to sit down, just breathe and say “F**k It!”.

Will someone die because your kids are 10 minutes late to school?

Will the sky turn black if the family eats cheese toasties for dinner for the 2nd night in a row because you forgot to defrost anything again?

Will the universe spontaneously combust because you don’t get around to emailing this person, calling that person or replying to some comments on your blog for just another day?

Perspective People.

It’s simple when you really think about it, you’ve just got to put it all into perspective.

In case you are wondering, I’m no expert on this matter. In fact I only just came to this realization myself yesterday morning as I was busy stressing out about life. 

There is too much pressure in the world as there is without placing unnecessary and often unrealistic expectations upon yourself too.

I don’t mean to sound demeaning to anyone else who feels differently to this, but when did any of us become so damn important that the world will end if we don’t do something that we THINK we should?

Seriously,  I don’t give a rats ass if you send your daughter to school with a tin of tuna, a can opener and a fork. Would you care if mine took a box of cruskets and a jar of Vegemite?

I don’t give two hoots if you forget to call me back because you chose to watch a Real Housewives Marathon instead, and I imagine you wouldn’t really care if I chose to nick off and participate in a belly flop comp with the kids and replied to your emails tomorrow instead of today.

Life is short and time is far too precious to spend it rushing around all the time, trying to do everything, worrying about things that haven’t been done or self imposed deadlines.

Sometimes we just need to stop, chill out for a while, quit with the stressing and just say “FUCK It!”

Try it ….. it actually feels pretty darn liberating!

Did that even make sense?
Do you have any idea what I am rambling on about?
How often do you just stop and say “Fuck It!”?

Your Undiscovered Greatness

The people I admire the most are those who find the inner strength to face their demons, overcome their circumstances, and find their own brand of success.  They are not infallible, but more often than not they keep pushing forward regardless of the challenges they face.  They have time for a kind word and a helping hand for others even when they are burdened.  And they never fail to say thank you when a kindness is extended to them.

The people I admire the most are those that do not stop at achievement and success.  For these people, pleasure does not come from the achievement, but rather from the work, the journey toward success. They are most alive when working toward something amazing. When “amazing” is achieved, they barely rest before they are off on the next adventure.

I hope I am as I describe above more often than not.  Each day is another opportunity to be that person and I am grateful for that chance.

This is how I choose to live my life.  I don’t always stay so focused, but this is my quest.  Care to join me?