Being called hurtful names in a relationship is probably one of the most hurtful things a person can hear. This is particularly true when we are involved in a romantic relationship and the person you are attached to makes this kind nasty comment. Your hurt may only intensify if your man or woman said something like this to you in the presence of other people. If you are sitting with a bunch of feelings right now and wondering why “My boyfriend called me fat” “My girlfriend called me a douche-bag” “My boyfriend calls me stupid” “ugly“, there is a good chance that right now, you are highly pissed off. Here’s the deal – you should be!
Sometimes people in personal romantic relationships say things out of a place of anger. Other times, remarks are made because somebody made a bad attempt at trying to be funny. To keep it real, all of us say things we later come to regret. But there are some things that really should never be said, regardless of what prompted the comment. Specifically, we are talking about your significant other calling you fat, ugly or stupid.
You should tell them two things:
1. That their comments hurt your feelings.
2. They need to cut that shit out right now.
What he/she thinks does not matter. What you feel does matter. You have the right to feel loved and supported in a relationship. If their comments undermine that feeling then, then you should demand the comments stop. And if he/she does not stop, then find a new boyfriend or girlfriend. Life is too short to argue with people who deny that their behavior is hurtful.
I know I’m not what society would consider “hot” or “gorgeous.” I don’t have an amazing figure or a flat stomach. I’m far from being considered a model, but I’m me! I eat food, I have curves, I have scars, I have a history. I have done good and I have done bad. I think everyone is beautiful in his or her own way.